Thursday, August 30, 2012

30 Days of Marriage

When I looked up synonyms for Marriage this is what came up:

alliance, amalgamation, association, confederation, conjugality, connubiality, consortium, coupling, espousal, holy matrimony, link, match, mating, matrimony, merger, monogamy, nuptials, pledging, sacrament, spousal, tie, tie that binds, wedded bliss, wedded state, wedding bells, wedding ceremony, wedlock
I laughed at most of these. So when people at the office ask me "So how's the first month of marriage?" I get this blank stare on my face and say "It's an adjusment" with a weak smile on my face. OKAY that's an exaggeration!! I do say that it's an adjustment I mean who thought living with a man would be so difficult at times and yet so rewarding.

We are currently "adjusting" to each other. There's that word again. Which means become or make prepared. So what exactly are we preparing for? War? Children? Life? In-Laws? Money? Jobs? Sickness? I guess mostly life and what it brings each day. So although we are "preparing" ourselves to live with each other every day for the rest of our lives (otherwise eternity), the heaviness of the topic still rings lightheartedly in my mind as I think of all the joy it brings me.

The other day Josh and I were looking for a dress for me to wear to my cousin's wedding this weekend. Now if y'all know Josh you know he ABHORS spending money (he's cheap lol). So as I was trying on a few dresses (which by the way I NEVER look at price tags) he takes off and comes back with a bag in his hand. Not sure what he had picked up but he tells me the dress I'm wearing is gorgeous on me as he surveys every angle. He then pulls out a pink box with these beautiful studded dangling earrings and a necklace to match which is glittering bright making my face pink with excitement. The mere fact that he went and made the effort to pick something out and buy it for me just said so much without saying anything.

Some men will spend money on women and it's not a big deal to them. It's almost a chore because it's what you're supposed to do but when Josh spends money on me I know he really cares to sacrifice the devil on his shoulder telling him "Josh you don't need that, it's unneccessary! Why would you buy it you already have what you need at home. Who cares if there's holes in it and it's a different color than what it was when you bought it. You don't need a new one!" It's a struggle for him to allow indulgences but when he spoils me he goes all out! Not just monetarily but physically, spiritually, and mentally. It makes me feel like the Queen he says I am. I love you sweetie...

*Anxiously awaiting the next 30 days plus infinity*

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Married Woman

Life could not get any better at this moment! I am an over joyed and thrilled married woman!

The weeks leading up to the actual wedding were a little stressful. Josh and I were constantly bickering (Satan was trying his best but he did not win) and all of the last minute details seemed to keep pilling up.

Today's post is going to be more of an overview of what it's like to be married.

Let's begin with the dislikes:

1. I haven't come across any yet in my 13 days of marriage....maybe it takes a little while longer for bad habits to come forth?


1. Waking up next to my hubby (that includes morning breath and kisses)
2. Having the option of doing everything together (personally I like watching tv and eating dinner with him as well as showering together ;)
3. Praying together at night and before each meal
4. Intimacy is a given but marriage just takes it to a whole new level
5. Trying to fit "my husband" in every conversation I can with strangers
6. Having a "Mr. Fix It" around the house (we came home from our honeymoon and our closet was falling apart all of my clothes were on the floor and so were his...#thankgoodnessforhiscovetedtools)
7. Getting mail addressed to Challis Family
8. Paying bills (do they get smaller with two incomes or does it seem to multiply?)
9. He hates washing dishes and I love it.... I hate taking the garbage out so he takes care of it. (I heard compromise goes out the window after 6 months)
10. Being with my best friend, husband, and lover everyday and knowing it will be for eternity #bestfeelingeverperiod.

Things are still a little chaotic at the apartment we have yet to unpack a few things and I still have unopened gifts at my parents home in Houston. Once things die down a bit I will continue to fill yall in on the details of the last two weeks or so of my life.